Is The Seven Year Itch Just Boredom?

I've got this itch and need the right man to stop it!

 

 

If you’ve been married for seven plus years and still enjoy or even yearn for sex with your husband or wife, then please let me and probably many others know your secret.

After nine years of marriage my husband and I mostly know what one another are thinking at any given time, what each other are going to say, and we know exactly how the sex will be.

Our problem is that there is no Passion anymore, well not with a capital P anyway.

So what’s a gal (or guy) to supposed to do?

 

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4 Responses to Is The Seven Year Itch Just Boredom?

  1. MacTheKnife says:

    I’d personally say that the number one way to improve your sex life is to be open to making changes.

    And I’ve been married eight times so I should know!

    Hey, just kidding, I’ve only been married two or three times like most people ;-)

    For Women

    Maybe take some kind of course such as belly dancing, yoga, or even a stripper class.

    They can all be fun, and they’re all are available for women only so you won’t be embarrassed!

    They’ll give you the opportunity to move your body and to get in touch with your sexuality and hopefully also expand your comfort zone.

    Buy new lingerie that you feel comfortable in and that you feel s*** in.

    For Men And Women

    No belly dancing or stripper classes for the men, but compliments work!

    Compliments don’t just work for women, but they work for for men too.

    Men have insecurities just like women so compliments from either people are going to get you into the bedroom, and will most likely keep you in there longer too!

    But make the compliments very specific, not just generic like, "You look great tonight!".

    Hey, he or she doesn’t normally look great?

    Be willing to try new things.

    If you’re totally against trying new things then that’s fine.

    However, even if you have just a vague feeling that it might work and the idea doesn’t offend you then go for it!

    If after you tried it, and either you or your partner didn’t like it then maybe never do it again.

    Be affectionate to each other.

    Too many couples I know simply exchange a kiss in the morning and one at night; so try holding hands, brushing the hair out of her or his eyes, and remember that little touches can often have a lot of meaning behind them.

    Maybe, be a little naughty.

    Maybe send a text message to your partner to get them riled during the day.

    Say what you’re wearing (or not wearing), then tell them you have to go and hang up.

    Anticipation leads to imagination and excitement vice versa.

    Finally and probably most important, communicate and make sure both of you have private time for each other.

    If you want to try something (or not try something), then tell your partner.

    Your partner should be OK with whatever you want to do, so hear them out and be willing to compromise.

    Lead or guide them, and be willing to take and give direction.

    Ultimately both partners should be satisfied and it’s not all about just one person.!

  2. Gina Robinson says:

    Let’s consider ..

    Your children have just drifted off to sleep and you and your spouse have just finished up your nightly chores.

    The available options are now most likely to be:

    Watching the nightly news on the television in your room.
    Reading a book or magazine.
    Or maybe having sex with your spouse if she or he is up for it.

    If the option of sex seems like yet another chore on your daily list and the idea of reading a chapter in your new book or watching the daily sports scores on the news seems more exciting, then you and your spouse might be suffering from sex-rut syndrome.

    Sex-Rut syndrome

    This syndrome has not yet made it into the medical books, but it does appear to exist; so how do we cure this problem that plagues so many marriages?

    Communication

    Like others have posted communication is the key but just talking about sex most likely won’t cure the problem so try some of these:

    Your Day Dreams

    Day dreams are the place to explore what you might like to do with your spouse.

    So maybe spend fifteen minutes every day having a sexual fantasy, and you don’t have to fantasize about your spouse, it can be anyone.

    What you are looking for in your fantasies is what is being done, how it is being done, and how much you enjoy it.

    Write some of your fantasies down on paper and maybe try them out in the bedroom or even over the kithchen table.

    You Get What You Put In Or Out

    Many woman complain that their men aren’t romantic enough to get them in the mood for sex.

    But many men feel too unappreciated to want to give romance to their wives to put them in the mood for sex, and the problem here is expecting the other person to put us in the mood.

    If a woman wants exciting sex, then she has to act like she wants exciting sex!

    Most men will agree that when a woman seems turned on by them, and acts as if she can’t get enough of their manliness, then he in turn can’t wait to get his hands all over her.

    Take time to laugh with your partner every day.

    Spend time connecting with one another everyday.

    Spend time doing little things that show each other how appreciated they are.

    And flirt with each other during the day to set up a sexual mood, and then maybe make the fantasy real!

  3. gillian says:

    What worked for me was improving our every day relationship, and I highly reccomend it.

    Be tender in supposedly unromantic situations and locations, display empathy, and give words of encouragement and praise, and an improving sex life will naturally flourish.

    You need a deep bond of love between you, to know each other really well, and to be able to read one another’s emotions and thoughts.

    It would be silly to expect romance in an atmosphere of frustration and constant arguing, so people who are not able to maintain a happy and rewarding relationship will never have a truly satisfying sex life

    One or the other will get bored as soon as it starts to go sour, and they will look for new excitement to fill the vacuum.

  4. straight-talker says:

    The following are some ideas that will help a man please a woman in bed.

    If women are happy and feeling good then they’ll enjoy the sex.

    Men need to feel relaxed and maintaining a sense of humor will help ease the anxiety that’s often caused by, “Will I be good?”, and “Will she like it?’.

    Remember that sex should be more about pleasing your partner than pleasing yourself, so she should come first and then you.

    Warm loving and gentle foreplay is important, so forget the “Wham, bam, thank you Mam”, approach.

    Be confident and take control, but do it in a warm and loving way.

    Tell the lady nice things or even dirty things if that arouses her, but know when to stop talking. Don’t ramble on when she’s having her climax or o*****.

    After the act is finished, hold the lady close and let her melt into your arms. Don’t leap out of bed to watch TV or make a sandwich etc.