If you’ve been married for seven plus years and still enjoy or even yearn for sex with your husband or wife, then please let me and probably many others know your secret.
After nine years of marriage my husband and I mostly know what one another are thinking at any given time, what each other are going to say, and we know exactly how the sex will be.
Our problem is that there is no Passion anymore, well not with a capital P anyway.
So what’s a gal (or guy) to supposed to do?
I’d personally say that the number one way to improve your sex life is to be open to making changes.
And I’ve been married eight times so I should know!
Hey, just kidding, I’ve only been married two or three times like most people
For Women
For Men And Women
Ultimately both partners should be satisfied and it’s not all about just one person.!
Let’s consider ..
Your children have just drifted off to sleep and you and your spouse have just finished up your nightly chores.
The available options are now most likely to be:
If the option of sex seems like yet another chore on your daily list and the idea of reading a chapter in your new book or watching the daily sports scores on the news seems more exciting, then you and your spouse might be suffering from sex-rut syndrome.
Sex-Rut syndrome
This syndrome has not yet made it into the medical books, but it does appear to exist; so how do we cure this problem that plagues so many marriages?
Communication
Like others have posted communication is the key but just talking about sex most likely won’t cure the problem so try some of these:
Your Day Dreams
Day dreams are the place to explore what you might like to do with your spouse.
So maybe spend fifteen minutes every day having a sexual fantasy, and you don’t have to fantasize about your spouse, it can be anyone.
What you are looking for in your fantasies is what is being done, how it is being done, and how much you enjoy it.
Write some of your fantasies down on paper and maybe try them out in the bedroom or even over the kithchen table.
You Get What You Put In Or Out
Many woman complain that their men aren’t romantic enough to get them in the mood for sex.
But many men feel too unappreciated to want to give romance to their wives to put them in the mood for sex, and the problem here is expecting the other person to put us in the mood.
If a woman wants exciting sex, then she has to act like she wants exciting sex!
Most men will agree that when a woman seems turned on by them, and acts as if she can’t get enough of their manliness, then he in turn can’t wait to get his hands all over her.
And flirt with each other during the day to set up a sexual mood, and then maybe make the fantasy real!
What worked for me was improving our every day relationship, and I highly reccomend it.
Be tender in supposedly unromantic situations and locations, display empathy, and give words of encouragement and praise, and an improving sex life will naturally flourish.
You need a deep bond of love between you, to know each other really well, and to be able to read one another’s emotions and thoughts.
It would be silly to expect romance in an atmosphere of frustration and constant arguing, so people who are not able to maintain a happy and rewarding relationship will never have a truly satisfying sex life
One or the other will get bored as soon as it starts to go sour, and they will look for new excitement to fill the vacuum.
The following are some ideas that will help a man please a woman in bed.